The Meaning of Meaning

Molecular ThoughtsA couple of days ago I posted the following quote, attributed to Tennessee Williams, to my personal Facebook wall.

“Everything could have been anything else and it would have had just as much meaning.” Tennessee Williams
 
Now the reason I posted this quote is because I had just finished watching the movie “Mr. Nobody” and this quote was one of the line towards the end of the film that they use to kind of explain what was happening in the film and I thought it was a pretty interesting quote, something worthy of pondering for a moment. Shortly after my post a friend of mine, whom I truly love like a brother, stated that this quote was “nihilism, in a nutshell”.
 
Now, I don’t know if you know what nihilism means, as a word, but the general definition is:
 
 A total rejection of established laws and institutions; anarchy, terrorism, or other revolutionary activity; total and absolute destructiveness, especially toward the world at large and including oneself: the power-mad nihilism that marked Hitler’s last years. Philosophy: an extreme form of skepticism: the denial of all real existence or the possibility of an objective basis for truth; nothingness or nonexistence.

What proceeded was a healthy debate about meaning (that somehow moved to religion and whether or not the biblical figure Paul actually longed for death… but that’s not really what I want to go into here).  My rebuttal to my friend’s comment was that I suppose that is one point of view for the statement, though I felt that it was a somewhat pessimistic one, but that I felt that it had a different meaning all together.

In NLP and strategic intervention coaching we have a saying that goes “Nothing has any meaning except for the meaning that we give to it.”  What this concept basically convey is the idea that we are ones who choose the meaning that we are going to give to something; an event, a person, an action, an idea. So I believe that Williams was talking about is this very concept, that everything could have been anything else, and it would still have just as much meaning to us.

I could have married a different woman and had a different child or even more children and they would still have just as much meaning to me as those that I have in my life now. I could have been born in another country, to another set of parents, in a different time, and, even though my values and expeiences may have been different as a result, it still would have had significant meaning to me.  Why?  Because the meaning that I give to something, anything, is the meaning that I give to it.  It has no inherent meaning or value in and of itself because the meaning and the experience are synonymous. The person having the experience is the one giving that experience the meaning that is creating the experience.

Another interesting aspect of this is emotion. The meaning that we give to something becomes the experience of that thing, and it stirs our emotions about that thing as well. Another concept that we use in strategic itnervention coaching is the idea that emotions don’t come to us, we go to them. We do this because our emotions are really the body’s response to what is going on in the mind, and our emotions move us to certain actions; anger, love, frustration, tears, laughter, and so on, producing chemical connections in our brain and strengthing our nuero-network pathways, making it easier to get that emaition in the futre. But our emotions are also an attempt to control or influence our environment to one that is more suitable to our liking, and, because the pathways are developed over our life time, we become more and more efficient at getting to certain emotions and having certain kinds of experiences.

So let’s put this all together. Emotions don’t come to us, we go to them. And we go to them because we believe, based upon our interprtations of past experiences, that they serve us.  They serve us getting us to take actions to control our environment so that the environment conforms to the experience that we want to have. AND Nothing has any meaning except for the meaning that we give to it. And we give it that meaning because we want to, what?  Control our experience, yes, but also because the experience drives us to the emotions that we feel we need to use to control the environment, so that we can have the experience that we want.

In other words, the meaning we give to a circumstance, or a statement, or someone else’s actions is the meaning that we need to give to it so that we can have the emotional response we need to have in order to control our experience.  So it could be said that the meaning, the experience, and the emotions are all attempts to control circumstances or other people so that we can have what we want.

But what happens if you give the circumstance, or the statement, or action a different meaning? What if the other person’s actions are not all about you?  What if they are just trying to have a particular experience and they only have a limited set of tools to control their environment so that they can have that experience. If you change the meaning, do you not also change your experience, and your emotional response to it?  What if you just decided to give it a meaning that serves your experience?

Why Arguing Is A Complete And Total Waste Of Time

wargamesSo I’ve been married for a very long time. 18 years in fact. It’s an accomplishment that I am very proud of, given the divorce rate in the country today. Does that mean that everything is rosy and wonderful all the time? No. We’re both human beings. We both have our issues; our pasts, our feelings, our expectations (met and unmet), our demands. It’s not an easy thing to get two people to work together for that long. In fact, we have times when we are both very angry with one another and we even wonder if we’re going to make it or what it’s all for. What’s the point?

So my wife and I were having a discussion the other day about an issue that’s been kind of a pain-causing point between us in the past. Things began to escalate and anger and frustration began to set in. In the middle of that storm that was raging it hit me why arguing with anyone, ever, about anything is a complete and total waste of time.

You see, we’ve been conditioned to believe that arguing is a form of communication. But the truth is arguing is not a form of communication. It’s a power struggle. It’s a fight of one person’s will to dominate and control another person’s will. It’s about “being right”. My position is the correct one and your position is the incorrect one, therefore you must yield to my superior position. But what’s really funny is when one person (Person A) in the argument begins to finish the other person’s (Person B) sentences, but those conclusions are not what the other Person B was going to say. They are what Person A thought Person B was going to say based upon what they believe about Person B.

When you’re having an argument, it’s important to remember that you’re not actually arguing with the person standing in front of you. You’re arguing with yourself. With your own perceptions and opinions about the person you think you are arguing with. You’re arguing with all of the past hurts and disappointments, all of the times they’ve let you down before. You’re arguing with who you think they are, what you think they are saying, what you think they mean by what they are saying. You’re also arguing with what those perceptions mean to you. You are arguing with your own mind and making the other person the catalyst for the argument.

This is why couples who have been together for a very long time never get anywhere with their arguments. Because the arguments are pointless. And because they are actually arguing with every other argument they’ve ever had with that person, or that they believe that they have had.

“Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.” – Jim Rohn.

Of course another by product of all of this arguing is that it inevitably leads to one or both parties defending themselves. They defend their opinions, their beliefs, and their positions. Not because those opinions, beliefs, and positions are actually true or valid, see my point above about arguing with yourself, but because they have come to identify with those opinions, beliefs, and positions. Their identity as a person, a human being worthy of love, respect, and dignity, becomes tied to the opinions, beliefs, and positions, so to abandon them would be like abandoning themselves. So they begin to do a kind of verbal shootout. Like those old west movies where the guy is crouched behind a barrel and he pops up and shoots and then quickly ducks behind the barrel again. The defensive person begins popping up over their defensive position, psychologically speaking, shooting off their point and then ducking back down behind their defenses.

But just as arguing is pointless, because you’re not actually arguing with the person but with what you believe that the other person is saying, the same thing is true when you try to defend yourself. You can’t actually do it because you’re not defending yourself. You’re defending against the other person’s perceptions of you and who they think you are. But you don’t really know who they think you are, you cannot fully understand those perceptions, so there is no way to defend yourself against those perceptions. You can’t force someone’s opinion about you to change. You can’t control what they are going to believe or why.

All you can do is be honest and be true to who you desire to be. If someone is not wanting you to be who you desire you to be, or is criticizing you for it, then step back, examine if what they are saying is true, or if it is based upon a false assumption of belief, and then determine what you’re going to do from there.  The best way to win an argument or to defend yourself is kind of like what WOPR said in the movie “War Games”, “A strange game.  The only winning move is not to play.”

The Law of Compensation

wolf33So the other day my wife and I decided to watch the movie “The Wolf of Wall Street”, starring Leonardo DiCaprio.  It’s a movie about the life and times of Jordan Belfort, former Founder and CEO Strattond Oakmont, a boiler room pump and dump stock firm from the 80’s and 90’s. I say my wife and I watched it, but really I watched because she fell asleep about half way through it. 😉

At any rate, a pump and dump stock is one that is basically owned and sold by the brokerage house but really has nowhere near the value that the market is paying for the stock. So let’s say I have a small cookie bakery and I decide to take it public (that is I decide to sell stock in my company) and I hire a firm like Stratton Oakmont to sell my stock.  They get their brokers pumped up, who then start calling investors and get them pumped up to buy the stock, which actually pumps up the price of the stock to an insanely overvalued price and all the while they’re dumping their shares onto the open markets for a profit. So a stock that’s really valued at, say, $0.59 cents, could be pumped up to the $4 or maybe even $12 range and dumped at those exorbitantly high prices, obviously making millions of dollars in the process.

So what does all of this have to do with killing a fat guy?  Well, I began thinking about what really drives this kind of behavior. What takes a normal sane, safe, responsible person and causes them to hand over their hard-earned money to a fast talking sales guy on the telephone, whom they’ve never actually met, to invest in a stock for a company they’ve probably never even heard of? The answer, of course, is greed.

Another character from a stock market movie, this time functional, is Gordon Gecko.  No, not the lame-ass old guy from “Wall Street II: Money Never Sleeps”, but the original Gordon Gecko from the first Wall Street movie.  Gecko was a powerhouse in that film.  He was the “bad guy” that you actually wanted to be. Anyway, I digress.  In the first Wall Street movie, Gecko famously said in a speech that:

“Greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right.  Greed works. Greed clarifies, cuts through and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit. Greed, in all it’s forms; greed for life, for money, for love, for knowledge, has marked the upward surge of mankind.”

Powerful stuff, right? And he’s not too far off the mark.  The problem comes when greed is met with impatience, low self-esteem, and lack of moral character. You see, people invest in pump and dump schemes because they’re thinking two things: 1. That they’re not going to be the guy that gets caught in the trap. No. They’re smarter than those slick Wall Street sales guys.  They’ll set their price and get out of the stock before it falls. They’ll let the other suckers out there keep buying the stock while they sip on champagne and count their thousands. 2. They think that they are going to get rich quickly. They think that the rules do not actually apply to them and that they are just awesome enough to be handed this great opportunity to make a ton of cash and get out of the game.

The really interesting think is that this “get rich quick” mentality shows up EVERYWHERE in their lives. It shows up in their careers.  It shows up in their finances. It shows up in their relationships. And, yes, it even shows up in their health and fitness.

You see if a person is susceptible to get rich quick schemes then their is a flaw in their character. That’s not to say that they are necessarily bad people doing bad things and setting out to intentionally harm others.  But it is to say that they have bought in to the idea that the rules somehow do not apply to them. They don’t really have to do the work to get the prize. They literally just have to show up.

And while it is true that showing up is half of the battle, it’s only HALF of the battle. If you’re not willing to do the work, then, in the end, you don’t deserve the reward.  This is what’s known in new thought circles as the Law of Compensation. The Law of Sowing and Reaping. It’s the sowing of the seed that brings the reward of the harvest. And sowing doesn’t simply mean planting the seed in the ground, the equivalent of “showing up”.  It means tending to the to plant as it grows. Pulling out the weeds that would choke the life out of the young plant.  Nurturing it.  Watering it day in and day out. Putting effort into the investment over time.

I think the real essence of greed is about protecting and nurturing your investments so that they grow. Greed is about getting to harvest and reaping the rewards of your hard work. You invest your time into your relationship with your spouse and your children.  You invest your money into your education, your lifestyle, and your retirement.  You invest your sweat and pain and energy into your health and fitness.  But none of these things are “get rich quick”.

If you’re 100 pounds overweight, going to the gym one day a week, taking a magic pill, and not eating an extra cheeseburger is not going to make you fit and healthy. It takes time and commitment. It’s an investment in yourself, your health. You must show up every day and in every moment. You must decide with each opportunity to eat another slice of pizza, that this is not who you desire to be. You must keep your eyes on the prize.  Keep your vision in front of you.

You can have a better life, a better body, a better relationship, a better financial situation.  But it’s not get rich quick. Don’t fall for the fast-talking sales guy telling you how hard you’ve worked and how much you “deserve” to have it all… now!… without actually putting in the work. Today is not “You’re lucky day”. Luck is an illusion for suckers and narcissists. Work!  Work is the way to freedom from the challenges your face. The Law of Compensation will not be mocked and broken. The seed you sow is the harvest you will reap.

My Apologies, But I’m Not Sorry

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Have you ever stopped to listen to how many times in your day that you say the word’s “I’m sorry”? I mean, you’re sorry for how you acted, you’re sorry you treated your spouse or your kids that way, or you’re sorry you didn’t get that project done on time, or that report out when it was supposed to be done. 

Here’s the problem with all of those “I’m sorry” answers.  You’re not really sorry. You may be genuinely apologetic for the fact that you did  or did not do something correctly and you may genuinely intend to not let a mistake happen again, but that’s a different matter all together.

We say “I’m sorry” for so many things in life.  And we say it so often that I think we lose sight of the real intent and meaning behind the term and, I’m sorry, but I think it’s kind of a habit for many of us. So much so that we end up saying “I’m sorry” even when we’re not really apologizing.  Or worse, we say it to simply appease someone else and avoid conflict, turmoil, wrath, or punishment.

Why do we do that?  Why do we try to avoid conflict when often times conflict is exactly what is needed? We need to have that crucial conversation with whomever because there are misunderstood or outright ignored expectations. Communication is not about avoiding conflict, it’s about clearly expressing our desired outcomes to other people so that they are aware of what we are after and what we are looking to experience in our life or circumstance.

But we end up saying “I’m sorry” in order to avoid that communication. Effectively saying that what we desire not only has little or less value, but that we are actually in the wrong for desiring it.  If I tell someone who says that they love me that I’m going to get up in the morning at 5:00 AM and go for a walk, and they tell me that my doing so is going to wake them up and that I’m rude and inconsiderate for taking this action, and I say “Oh, I’m sorry.  Well, I guess I’ll have to find another way to take better care of myself, since you’re comfort and convenience is more important than my health, well-being, and happiness in life.”

I mean, isn’t that what we’d be saying if we just caved?  Aren’t we saying that someone else’s opinion is so much more valuable and has so much more meaning and significance in our lives than our own?  Aren’t we, in fact, saying “I’m sorry I have an opinion on this.”?

This, of course, is nothing new. There was a Roman Emperor named Marcus Aurelius who said:

“I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others.”
What I think he means by this that that we often hold the opinions of other people in such high regard that we will even apologize for having our own opinions in order to not offend those who may think or feel differently than we do. I think this boils down to what we really think and believe about ourselves. The more we love, respect, and trust ourselves, the more we will respect our own opinions and ideas.
That’s not to say that you run roughshod over those around you. You can hold your own opinions and ideas without being an asshole about it. But you need not say that you are sorry for the very having of those opinions and ideas. They are your own. Trusting yourself enough to make them valid, to you, according your beliefs and moral values, is the key to long term success and happiness.
So stop saying “I’m sorry” for things you actually believe, actually desire, and actually feel, and begin to accept that they are part of who you are. You can say “I apologize if the fact that I have a differing opinion (or desire, or idea, or belief) offends you, but that does not invalidate the fact that my thoughts on this issue exist.”  Assume that what you possess is of value. Those who see it will fully support you and your right and authority to have those beliefs, opinions, desires, and ideas. Those who do not, ironically, likely do not believe in the value of their own opinions anyway, so they have to fight you to get you to see it their way so that they can validate themselves at your expense.

Why You’re Not Living Your Dream

Evolv - BentleyAs a coach I am consistent about keeping a positive attitude in my day to day actions. I focus on what I can do to create the life and experience I wish to have, or I sometimes follow my own advice and just plain ignore the circumstances and go live my life. But sometimes I get the overwhelming sense that I’m just faking it through life.  I get this feeling because I have dreams and ambitions, things that I would like to experience but do not have the means to do so, and yet I still do not live that particular aspect of my dream.

I mean, I can imagine that I have a Tesla Model S sitting in the driveway, but when I look outside, I just see my 2009 Kia.  It’s a very nice Kia, don’t get me wrong, but it is most definitely NOT a Tesla. Or, for example, I see recording studio equipment strewn all over my office and I envision my home recording studio, but when I open the closet I can clearly see that it’s still just a closet, not the soundproof vocal isolation booth I envision it to be.

There are many other examples of this in my life. Even though I have written a book on becoming a fit, healthy person, there are days when I just don’t want to do it. Even though I earn a good living as a consultant, there are days when I wish I was doing something else. And the real reason that I do not have everything I desire comes down to one thing:

I haven’t moved from the mental state of wanting it to the mental state of setting an intention to go after it.

That’s it!  That’s the whole reason why you, or I, or anyone else doesn’t have what they desire.  That’s the reason we don’t fully realize or live our dreams.  Think about it for a second. What parts of your life have you accomplished on accident?  Did you accidentally marry your spouse, or did you establish a relationship with them, date them, get to know them, and then set your intention and take action to keep them in your life for the rest of your life?

What about your job?  Did that just happen upon you?  Or did you search for it, network for it, make connections, send in your resume or fill out an application, put on a nice outfit, go in for an interview, nail the interview, and then follow up until you got hired?

Everything you have in your life, your job, your relationships, your health, everything, is because you set your intentions to have it, developed an action plan to go get it, and then took the action.

Bruce Lee, one of my all-time favorite martial artists said:

“Maturation is the development from environmental support to self support”

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One of the things I think he means here is that in order to mature as a person we must move beyond the realm of needing other people to give us or allow us our dreams in life, to the realm of personal responsibility for making those dreams happen. That’s not to say that you don’t have people in your life who support you, by means of encouraging you, or even helping you along the way.  But it does mean that you are not dependent upon that support in order to achieve your goals and dreams.

So when it comes to why you’re not living the life of your dreams, in your work, in your relationships, in your health; take a cue from Micheal Jackson who said: “I’m starting with the man in the mirror.”.  You must set your intentions, develop your plan, and take action. Because in the end, you are the only person who can make it happen.

** Side note: In the interest of full disclosure, the picture of me with the Bentley is from an event that I attended in 2013.  The Bentley is not mine.  It belongs to Trey White, the Co-Founder of Evolv Health.

Building A Future

VoltaireHave you ever stopped to really think about the future?  What your life will be like.  What kind of house you’ll live in.  What kind of relationships you’ll have. What kind of lifestyle you will lead. I think many people are afraid of the future because they’ve actually given up. I heard a saying once, I don’t remember where from, that said:

 

“If you’re not working to build a better future, it’s because you’ve lost hope and you don’t actually believe that there is one.”.

 

Think about that for a minute. The two primary things identified here are “hope” and “belief”. If you have no hope then you will have no belief. But why do we come to a place where we have no hope?  I think it’s because we come to believe in the fear more than the hope. Fear kills hope. You begin to fear that you will never achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve. You begin to believe that the fear is actually real. But instead of using that fear to drive you towards hope, you allow it to overtake you and the next thing you know, you’re living you entire experience in fear.

So it isn’t that you have no belief, you do.  It’s simply you believe in the fear of the future rather than the hope of the future. One of my favorite authors, Steve Chandler, says that when you feel regret or shame, it is because you’re focusing on the past, and when feel fear or anxiety, it’s because you’re focusing on the future.

But what about hope?  How do you hope for a better future?  How do you come to believe that a better future is possible? You do it by focusing, not on the future or the past, but on right now!  Ironically, the way you build a future is by what you do now. Voltaire said “It is said that the present is pregnant with the future.”  What I think he means by this is that what you do, how you act, how you treat people, the tasks you get done today… all of these things are investments into the future.

So if you are not making those investments in the right things or in the right ways, if you’re caught up in the negativity, the frustration, the disappointment, or  the anger of the past, then you are effectively living in that past while in the present moment, which means you are impregnating your future WITH the past. Meaning the future will simply be more of the same things you’ve had in the past.

So what do you do?  How do you change it? How do you move beyond the past, live in the present, and work towards the future?  You do it by letting go and letting happen. Ironically the best way to build a better future is to let go of both the future and the past, and let the present simply happen. It is what it is. You are where you are. How you got here isn’t what’s really important. What is important is to look at what you can right now to make things different. What can you do today?  What can you do this week?  What can you do this month?  What can you do to make the future something that is bright and hopeful and joyous and free?

How To Deal With Toxic Relationships

fightingRelationships are one of those things that either add tremendous value to your life or incredible pain and frustration. The only way to figure out what kind of relationship you’re in is to take an honest assessment about things and determine the best course of action from there.

When you’re in a good relationship, there’s openness, honesty, and trust. That’s not to say that you don’t have to work at it, you most certainly do, but the relationship as a whole makes you feel good about who you are, makes you feel confident that you can make decisions and even mistakes without feeling as though you are going to be judged or condemned for errors that you may make.

Ultimately, your relationship to and with another person is really about who you are and what you feel that you are worthy of experiencing. If you feel that you’re a screw up or that you need to be judged or criticized then that’s exactly what you’re attraction into your life in a partner.

So here’s the key. If you cannot be honest with your partner; about your needs, your desires, your aspirations, or your aversions, without feeling as though you’re going to be judged for it, you’re probably in a toxic or destructive relationship. Why?

It’s simple really. Good relationships are built upon trust. Without trust, there really is no relationship. So if you cannot be honest, or if you’re outright condemned when you are honest, then you’re not really in a relationship where you can trust the other person with who you are as a person.

This is not to say that the other person is “wrong” or “toxic”, terms which are often thrown around for their specific purposes, but really that you and the other person may simply be incompatible with one another and compatibility comes down to different ideas about behavior and intention which largely stem from upbringing and beliefs about right and wrong.

So it’s a good idea to go into the relationship with the an open mind and an honest portrayal of who you are. If you go in with the idea that you’ll “change them” after you’re already in the relationship, you’re setting yourself up for failure and heartache. Either you really like the person for who they are, or you’re pretending to like who they are so that you can change them into what you want later, which is starting the relationship off with a lie and an unrealistic expectation.

So you need to be aware if someone is secretly trying to get you to change, because they are operating under this false sense of who you are or what they can do to turn you into who they want or need you to be. Then you’ll be left looking like the bad guy because you’re not meeting the other person’s “needs” which are really their hidden expectations and agendas.

So if you’re in a toxic relationship, it is far better to begin the difficult process of undoing what you may have already done. You are here for only a short time, and life is way to short to pretend to be someone you are not because you are afraid of the judgement and condemnation of other people, and more importantly you intimate partner. The pain of this false life, of this lie, will manifest itself and you will be left dealing with the fallout.

Be who you are. Be aware of who you are. Be proud of who you are. Be free and find someone who loves you for you, because you really are worth it.

A Look At Obesity

This is me in October of 2008.

This is me in October of 2008.

If you thought being obese is being the target of jokes and being made fun of, you’re missing a whole part of the story. Obesity brings about a host of health dangers and predicaments. Obesity is not just about being overweight. To quote the American Obesity Association’s words, “It is now recognized that obesity is a serious, chronic disease. No human condition; not race, religion, gender, ethnicity or disease state compares to obesity in prevalence and prejudice, mortality and morbidity, sickness and stigma.”

It’s a trojan horse that brings with it a battalion of ailments, which are detrimental to your health. Here are just a few of the complications that can arise from being obese:

1. Hypertension

2. Diabetes (Type-2)

3. Coronary heart disease

4. Stroke

5. Gallbladder disease

6. Osteoarthritis

7. Asthma

8. Sleep apnea and respiratory problems

9. Some cancers (endometrial, breast and colon)

10.High levels of cholesterol

This is a pretty scary and an unending list. What’s worse it that each of the above ailments are capable of creating other complications, where no medication without side effect, could be comfortably used. So it seems to me that old adage “An ounce of prevention if worth a pound of cure” may be in order. So what can you do to prevent it?

Shake Your Head

I heard a story of a doctor who once told an obese person that it is actually very easy to lose weight. The person became very interested and asked him to suggest a way. The doctor calmly replied “Just shake your head from left to right, maybe ten times a day!” They became curious and asked “What is the idea behind this?” Doctor calmly replied, “Whenever anyone offers you something to eat, shake your head from left to right”. Simple, isn’t it? It is simple, but it requires discipline, which is not simple. But then, habit makes discipline. Avoiding junk food and fast food must be done with a discipline.

Is Being Overweight Obesity

Obesity is not just due to eating disorder unlike being overweight. Obesity can be hereditary. In fact many people in my own family have been obese and morbidly obese, but that doesn’t mean I have to be.

What Causes Obesity

There are more reasons than one. Having an obsession to eat more calories than you can burn off, how active or inactive are you, what kinds of foods you eat, what time of day you eat, and whether or not you have an inherited streak in your genes, all these determine your chances of becoming obese. Whatever the case, obesity is really due to the over accumulation of fats.

Is There An Anti-Obesity Plan?

There are many quick-fix plans being promoted by the so called dietitians which are not regulated by FDA. However, changing your mindset to no longer accept that being obese is just how it’s going to be for you, training in order to  burn excess fat by increasing physical activity, and changing your lifestyle and eating habits, so that you are eating healthier foods in the right amounts, at the right times of the day will all work in concert to help you stem and even reverse the tendency to becoming obese.

In the end it comes down to the three mantras I’m always talking about: Mindset | Nutrition | Training. Get those three ideas to align, and you’ll not only stop obesity, you’ll begin to live a happier, healthier life.

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Hello world!

To start off the new website, I thought I’d share the video that really started it all. In this video I explain the basic concept behind the Killing A Fat Guy system. There’s obviously a lot more to it than what I cover in this video, but this give you an idea of how I developed this program.